The Simon Kamdem Effect: Guilt, Shame and Condemnation

This is a faithful saying and worthy of all acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am chief

Hello beloved ones of God, I hope you’re all fine by God’s grace.

I am definitely sorry for the period of silence, I had issues these week, principally my WordPress blog being blocked for un unknown reason. By God’s grace, it is all solved now.

Before I’ll start, I would like to say that I’ve been arm-wrestling with God and myself before writing this post. I battled with it, and it was just like it held me tight and said “preach me”. I didn’t want to write on this, not because it’s not a good one but because I felt unqualified for this.

Anyhow, let’s get going.

When I was still a teenager, I watched this TV series called “Seventh Heaven”, known in the French-speaking side of the globe as “Sept à la maison”. It was the story of a pastor (Reverend Kamdem), husband and father of seven awesome children. Without trying to endorse anything in this TV series, I’ll use it for the teaching of today.

My favourite male character in Seven Heaven was Simon Kamdem. He was a nice blonde tall cute guy (probably my first crush), who unfortunately for him got involved in a car accident, which caused the death of a little boy (perhaps 3-4 years old, I don’t remember). He didn’t end up in prison (accident) but he carried that guilt to his college years.

When he reached college, he started escaping from lectures, and spent all his time in his university student room having sex with different girls. He eventually had poor grades, and his family ended up finding out about it. He was the only one of all his siblings who fell into extramarital sex. All his elders had gotten married before having sex.

When he finally opened up on the reason why he fell into extramarital sex, he said something which pierced my heart more than any words ever. I’ll try to recall at my best what he said.
There was this voice in my head which kept telling me that I had already killed a little boy, that no matter what I would do, no matter how much I would repent, I was already going to hell. God would never want me back after what I did, and there was absolutely no use trying to obey God and to live a pure life anymore, since I was already condemned.

In fact, he even added that the only moment during which he could hear those voices less was while he was having extramarital sex, and that afterwards the guilt would only increase, and the voices would remind him even more that his life with God was over and his life on earth was over, now not only because of the boy he killed but also because he had extramarital sex.

That left him in a vicious cycle, in which he was persuaded by the devil that whatever he did, God didn’t love him anymore and he was going to hell for sure.

I have named this the Simon Kamdem effect. Do you relate to it ? Have you ever felt like since you’ve committed x sin, you are disqualified forever from God’s kingdom, and He will never ever ever ever ever forgive you, and He has already decided that because of what you did you would die and go to hell?

What I call the Simon Kamdem effect is the spiral of guilt, shame and condemnation which overpowers the life of an individual, making him believe that because of a sin (or several sins) he/she committed,

  • God is never ever going to forgive them,
  • They’re going to hell no matter what happens next
  • Their repentance is of no use because God has already given up on them
  • They have already committed a sin, so there’s no use trying again to serve God,
  • Their life isn’t worth it anymore and they could even go on and commit all the other sins imaginable on earth since
  • No matter what they do as from now, it has already been decided that they’ll go to hell
  • God can’t use them ever anymore in their whole life time because of this one thing they did which He will never ever forgive and forget

Have you ever felt this way ? I have. In fact I almost feel exactly this way every time I sin (maybe even worse at times). When I do something against God (and I usually do; In fact I tend to see myself as Paul does, the worst sinner ever 1 Timothy 1:15 NIV), I hear all those voices telling me how it’s over, how God will never want me back, how it’s not worth trying anymore because I have already lost etc etc etc.

I know someone else who really really really messed up, and the Simon Kamdem effect helped him give up on his last hope.

Matthew 27:3‭-‬5 NLT

When Judas, who had betrayed him, realized that Jesus had been condemned to die, he was filled with remorse. So he took the thirty pieces of silver back to the leading priests and the elders. “I have sinned,” he declared, “for I have betrayed an innocent man.” “What do we care?” they retorted. “That’s your problem.” Then Judas threw the silver coins down in the Temple and went out and hanged himself.

That’s so unfortunate, that Judas left his chatterbox (the condemning and demoralizing voice inside him) use the Simon Kamdem effect to make him give up on hope of forgiveness and to end it all while Jesus would die for his sins too, while the grace and forgiveness at the cross was available for him too, but the devil didn’t let him know that, he just let him swim in guilt, shame and condemnation. The loss of all hope of restoration before God eventually led him to suicide.

Some of us feel this way but never go up to physical suicide. Instead, we commit

  • Spiritual suicide: we give up on prayer because we already believe that God hates us so much that He’ll never listen to us anymore, we quit our churches, we stop with our ministry because we’ve been convinced by the devil that it’s over.
  • Emotional suicide: We indulge in the greatest self-pity and self-hatred ever, and though we’ve asked for forgiveness, and though God has forgiven us,we refuse to forgive ourselves and to believe that He could forgive something so horrible. We start feeling sad, numb, broken and before we realize it, we fall into clinical depression.
  • Gifts suicide: We take all our gifts and bury them away, we refuse to be sent by God because we have already declared and accepted that we are unqualified and not worth it, that God should choose someone else and not us. Instead of using our gifts for His glory, for the edification of the church, to bring people back to God, we bury them and live unhappy and unsatisfied because we needed to punish ourselves for sins Jesus had already received punishment for.

The list could be extended…

Anyhow, I would to God today that I wouldn’t end this without showing His people that their relationship with God, their ministry in God, their salvation in Christ is not over till they decide.

I’ll show you something.

  • Peter too betrayed Jesus, he denied him 3 times in public
  • Paul killed lots of disciples of Christ
  • David stole someone else’s wife and killed her husband
  • Jonas said no when God sent him and even ran away from God and went in the opposite direction
  • Moses killed a man when he thought that nobody was around
  • Jacob tricked his father to earn blessings
  • Abraham had extramarital sex with the servant of his wife because his wife and him tried to fulfill God’s promise of a son by themselves

What all these have in common is the fact that they sticked to God no matter what had happened. They decided to go no where else but in God’s presence, and that’s how you defeat the Simon Kamdem effect

Make it clear to the devil that even if he wants to make you believe that your relationship with God is over, you’ll never start a relationship with him because you’ve chosen Jesus.

Don’t turn away from God in shame, stick to Him and draw even closer to Him.

John 6:67‭-‬69 NIV

“You do not want to leave too, do you?” Jesus asked the Twelve. Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God.”

1 Timothy 1:15 NIV

Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst.

Prayer

Father Lord God Almighty, I come before You with all my guilt and all my shame and all my pain, God I just can’t carry it anymore on my shoulders, and I don’t want to lose the joy of your presence. Please Lord heal me now, help me realize that it’s not over yet, that there still is hope, that in Christ Jesus I am forgiven, Loved and restored. Help me start afresh as from now, leaving the past behind and running to You, holding fast to You. When the devil reminds me of my past , help me remember what You say about me: I am valuable, completely forgiven and unconditionally loved. I am not what I did, I am who You say I am, In Jesus Christ’s Name. Amen.

God bless you all

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Victoria Eyog

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This is Faith 

Romans 1: 17 ESV " The righteous shall live by faith"

Hi beloved one of God, I hope you’re all fine but God’s grace. I hope you had an awesome week in The Lord. I definitely got amazed at this story I read lately in The Bible, and I want to share it with you because it inspired my faith and I hope that it’ll encourage you too.

So, this happened at the period of the deportation of Israël to Babylon. The King of Babylon at that time was King Nebuchadnezzar and he made an idol and compelled the people to worship it.

Daniel 3:1‭-‬2‭, ‬5 NIV

King Nebuchadnezzar made an image of gold, sixty cubits high and six cubits wide, and set it up on the plain of Dura in the province of Babylon. He then summoned the satraps, prefects, governors, advisers, treasurers, judges, magistrates and all the other provincial officials to come to the dedication of the image he had set up. As soon as you hear the sound of the horn, flute, zither, lyre, harp, pipe and all kinds of music, you must fall down and worship the image of gold that King Nebuchadnezzar has set up.

However, some Jews decided not to follow the crowd and not to adore the idol.

Daniel 3:12‭-‬13 NIV

 But there are some Jews whom you have set over the affairs of the province of Babylon—Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego—who pay no attention to you, Your Majesty. They neither serve your gods nor worship the image of gold you have set up.”  Furious with rage, Nebuchadnezzar summoned Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. So these men were brought before the king,

Ok, we could use this story to say so much about not following the crowd , or to say even more about peer pressure and stuff like that, but we’re going to look a little further into the story and see how Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego reacted when the king summoned them.

Daniel 3:15 NIV

 Now when you hear the sound of the horn, flute, zither, lyre, harp, pipe and all kinds of music, if you are ready to fall down and worship the image I made, very good. But if you do not worship it, you will be thrown immediately into a blazing furnace. Then what god will be able to rescue you from my hand?”

Yeah, this is the part we should pay attention to.

Daniel 3:16‭-‬17 NIV

 Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied to him, “King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from your Majesty’s hand.

THIS IS FAITH 

Yeah, this is faith.

Hebrews 11:1 NIV

 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

These guys inspire me. Unshakable faith, total confidence in The Lord. These men knew that even if they were thrown into the blazing furnace, God would for sure deliver them.

Try to transpose this same faith, and imagine if with this faith you could speak back to :

– your finances; telling them that no matter what happens God’s going to make everything you need available to you

-your studies; telling them that no matter what may happen, God is going to make you a success

-your marriage; telling it that God is going to restore it no matter the case

What if we had this firm assurance that God is going to act, He will do it, It will happen.

What if for a minute we could put ourselves in Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego’s shoes, and turn to this situation which threatens us, speak to it and tell it that God will make a way for sure and that they shall not overcome but God will overcome them for us?

Mark 11:23 NIV

 “Truly  I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them.


Let’s make it practical

This is an important moment, there’s something you’ve been praying for and doubting whether God could answer and grant you something so great and so huge. This is the moment, just seize this atmosphere of faith, and now, right now where you are, pray with faith, confidence and assurance, and decree that you know that God has heard and will answer. Tell that situation that as from now you aren’t worried anymore because your God will deliver you.

Prayer

Father Lord God Almighty, thank You so much for developing my faith through this wonderful story. Help me seize this moment and this atmosphere of faith to believe and receive my blessing/healing/newjob/peace of mind etc, because without faith it is impossible to please You, in Jesus Christ’s Name I pray, Amen


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Wish you the best in your walk with God, God bless you all.

Victoria Eyog

3 Facts to Keep in Mind When You Doubt Whether God Still Wants You After What You Did

Ezekiel 33:11 I want them to change their lives so that they can really live. So come back to me!

Hello beloved ones of God, I hope you’re all fine by God’s grace.

Have you ever noticed that when we sin, commit mistakes, fall short and go astray, it’s easy for us to have the impression that God won’t want us back after what we did?

Today’s post is directed towards anyone who feels like they have gone too far to experience God’s mercy, too far for God to want them back.

If that’s how you feel today, we’ll look at 3 facts today from Ezekiel 33 which should answer your question.

1. God doesn’t want the death and condemnation of those who sin

 Ezekiel 33:11 NIV

 Say to them, ‘As surely as I live, declares the Sovereign Lord , I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that they turn from their ways and live. Turn! Turn from your evil ways! Why will you die, people of Israel?’

That’s right, God is against sin, but He isn’t against us.

In other words, God has a problem with your sins, not with you.

"God has a problem with your sins, not with you" Quote by Victoria Eyog

He created us and He loves us. Ever since the garden of Eden, God has always demonstrated the same love towards man-kind. His wish is for us to live with Him and in Him. That’s why , He always leaves an open door for the dinner to turn back to Him during his life.

God doesn’t want us to die for our sins, that’s why He sent Jesus Christ to take our legitimate place on the cross. Don’t waste this grace, turn back to Him and live.

2. God forgets your sins (He forgives and lets go)

 Ezekiel 33:16 NIV

 None of the sins that person has committed will be remembered against them. They have done what is just and right; they will surely live.

Yeah, for every sin you confess sincerely to God, He forgives you and doesn’t recall that to His mind. He gets over it, so why not you?

Why do you still live in the past, crying and feeling shameful and pitiful for sins which God doesn’t recall to mind any longer, sins for which you have already asked for His forgiveness and obtained it?

3. Go and sin no more 

Ezekiel 33:19 NIV

 And if a wicked person turns away from their wickedness and does what is just and right, they will live by doing so.

Once you’ve understood that He loves you and this will always want you, now that you’ve realized that He’s not focused on your past (though you are), you can go ahead and live a righteous life under the direction of The Holy Spirit.

Start doing the right thing now.

The only thing is not to turn back to your sins, and to evaluate progress not past failures.

Prayer

Father Lord God Almighty, thank You for loving me so much that You don’t treat me according to my sins but according to Your unfailing love. Thank You for being patient with me so that I may realize my sins and turn back to You. Help me walk in Your ears everyday, in Jesus Christ’s Name I pray. Amen

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Victoria Eyog

The Trouble of a Christian Leader 

Hello beloved ones of God, I hope you’re all fine by God’s grace. Today’s post is directed to anyone who feels pressured by people around him/her to provide a solution to a problem which is beyond your scope. To you who feels like people around you are expecting from you what you are unable to give to them. 

Have you ever been completely stuck at a dead end, with absolutely no humanly possible solution coming to your mind, and at the same time having people in the same situation as you, count on you to take them out of that situation?

I know someone who’s been in such a situation, and his name is Moses.

 Exodus 14:10‭-‬12 NIV

As Pharaoh approached, the Israelites looked up, and there were the Egyptians, marching after them. They were terrified and cried out to the Lord . They said to Moses, “Was it because there were no graves in Egypt that you brought us to the desert to die? What have you done to us by bringing us out of Egypt? Didn’t we say to you in Egypt, ‘Leave us alone; let us serve the Egyptians’? It would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than to die in the desert!”

I don’t know how Moses felt at that moment, but I believe he too was probably disturbed by the presence of the Egyptians who were chasing them and drawing closer minute after minute, he too was powerless and clueless before the red sea being right in front of him and his enemies behind him, he too looked but saw no way to go. All by himself he had no solution, but the people he was called to lead were complaining and expecting as if he wasn’t in the same situation as they were, as if he wasn’t in that dead end just like them.

The people were expecting Moses to find a solution, while Moses was expecting God to find a solution. The people were expecting from Moses what only God could do.

There was no human solution to the problem that the Israelites faced. In the same way, at times we’re in situations with our family, friends, co-workers etc , which we can’t solve but which we are expected to solve because they look up to us as the leader.

  • At times it’s the bills we have to pay.
  • At times it’s about the debts.
  • It could be the fees for the wedding ceremony or for the chemotherapy which we have to raise but can’t raise because we lost our jobs.

Since we are the leader, the people we lead expect us to find a solution to the situation.

I think that if I had been in the place of Moses at that moment I would have been like : “I am not God, how do you expect me to provide a solution to this problem? I can’t, I am stuck here just as you are, I am a mere human just like you, I can’t make a miracle, we’re in this boat together and I don’t have any more clues than you to how we’ll get out of this situation. You are looking up to me to find a solution but I can’t, it’s just impossible to me”.

But, Moses is in this situation and he doesn’t react this way, Moses does two things

1. He reassures the people 
He reassures the people he is supposed to lead and encourages them in The Lord.

 Exodus 14:13‭-‬14 NIV

 Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”

2. He cries to God

Though Moses has every reason to be discouraged, and though he too needs encouragement, he fulfills his responsibility as a leader and encourages the people, then he turns to God for encouragement, he turns to God for a solution, and God gives him the next directives .

 Exodus 14:15‭-‬16 NIV

 Then the Lord said to Moses, “Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on. Raise your staff and stretch out your hand over the sea to divide the water so that the Israelites can go through the sea on dry ground.

The people look to Moses for a solution, and Moses looks to God for a solution. That’s what we have to do, when our responsibilities as leader come our way, when we have to do the task but we don’t know how to do it or where to start. Just like Moses, we have to turn to God so that He will provide a solution, because we are powerless.

Of course God gives the solution to Moses, but God involves Moses in the solution.

This problem which has been brought to you to be solved, this bill that is to be paid, this relationship that has to be fixed, this school that has to be built, this church that has to be opened, this food that has to be put on the table, God is going to do it, but He’s going to use you to do it.

The deliverance you are praying for, God is going to bring it, but don’t expect Him to send somebody else and to do it through somebody else, because more often than not, He’ll do it through you. You are His Moses.

 Exodus 14:16‭, ‬21‭-‬22‭, ‬26‭-‬29 NIV

 Raise your staff and stretch out your hand over the sea to divide the water so that the Israelites can go through the sea on dry ground. Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the Lord drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided, and the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left.  Then the Lord said to Moses, “Stretch out your hand over the sea so that the waters may flow back over the Egyptians and their chariots and horsemen.” Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and at daybreak the sea went back to its place. The Egyptians were fleeing toward it, and the Lord swept them into the sea. The water flowed back and covered the chariots and horsemen—the entire army of Pharaoh that had followed the Israelites into the sea. Not one of them survived.  But the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left.

  • Is God going to take me out of this dead end? 
  • Is God going to make a way for my debts to be paid?
  • Is God going to make my children grow up according to His Word?
  • Is God going to fix my relationship with my wife ?

Yes, God’s probably going to do that, but you’ve got to be ready, because He’ll do that through you.

Your faith, your obedience, your prayers, your raised staff and stretched out hand over the sea are going to determine whether or not that red sea will part, and whether or not you’ll pass on dry land with the people you lead.

It may be the moment to ask God, ” Father, show me in which way I can raise my staff and stretch out my hand over this sea and divide it to the glory of Your Name”

May be it’s time to stop crying and to stretch out your hand. When you’ll raise your staff and stretch out your hand in faith, God will perform the miracle and divide the red sea for you to pass and reunite it for your enemies to drown in it.

Finally, I just want to make you notice that it took the whole night for God to divide the sea, God didn’t divide it as soon as Moses raised his staff and stretched out his hand, it took the whole night. 

  Exodus 14:21 NIV

Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the Lord drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided,

This is just so that you realize that it is a process, it may not happen instantaneously, but keep faith, because God is dividing the waters, little by little, hour after hour, and before you realize it, the night will be over and the sea will be divided. 

Prayer 

Father Lord God Almighty, I thank You for Your Word, I thank You for calling me to be a leader and to serve others for Your glory. Next time those I am called to serve urge me for a need, help me to turn to You and to look up to You to fulfill not only their needs but also my needs. Show me the move of faith to make as a raised staff and a stretched hand, while You divide the sea for me, and for us, in Jesus Christ’s Name I pray, Amen.

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Could This One Thing be Poisoning Your Faith and Your Peace?

If you provide the faith, God will provide the miracle

 

Hello beloved ones of God, I hope you’ve all had an awesome week under the direction of The Holy Spirit. Today’s post is directed towards anyone who feels tense, anxious, troubled and/or not safe.

For a certain number of days, I’ve been waking up anxious. Feeling like I had a load to carry which was pressing on my heart and almost suffocating me. As I’m learning to know myself better, I’m aware of the fact that most of the time when I feel this way, it’s because I have something I am praying about for which I am trying to figure out a path or solution in my mind, trying to calculate how God’s going to make it happen.

The problem is that, every time I try to calculate I realize that it’s impossible, at least to me. I realize that I just can’t calculate every step God is going to take, I can’t know which door He’s going to open and how He’s going to do it, I don’t even know when, and since I can’t grasp the “how” of the miracle, I begin to feel anxious.

Have you ever felt this way? Can you relate to this or am I just crazy?

Guess what I realized, God never asked me to figure out “How” He was going to do it, He just asked me to “Ask”, and to “Believe”.

Matthew 7:7‭-‬8 NIV
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.  For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

Matthew 21:22 NIV

If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.”

John 14:14 NIV

You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.

Could it be, that every time I am stressed out it’s because I am trying to focus on how it’s going to happen, instead of focusing on God who promised that it would happen?

Here’s the problem in trying to figure out:

  • How God’s going to fix your marriage
  • How God’s going to speak to your best friend and make his heart change
  • How God’s going to put food on your table
  • How God’s going to multiply the money you give to Him as tithes and offerings at church
  • How God’s going to bring the spouse of His choice into your life
  • How God’s going to bless your marriage with another baby after the miscarriage
  • How God’s going to make this company choose you for a job
  • How God’s going to heal you …

The issue is we aren’t God, He has all the parameters in mind, He knows how the story is going to get untangled, we don’t. Try to equate all the parameters and to calculate how God’s going to fix it all in your life and you probably get a headache in the best case or you get crazy (worst case scenario).

What I mean is we aren’t omniscient, omnipotent and omnipresent, we can’t know God’s mind and we can’t think at the same level as Him.

Romans 11:33‭-‬34 NIV

Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out!  “Who has known the mind of the Lord? Or who has been his counselor?”

Isaiah 55:8‭-‬9 NIV

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord .  “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.

Psalm 92:5 NIV

 

How great are your works, Lord , how profound your thoughts!


“Your brain wasn’t meant to calculate how God would do it for you but to accept that God will do it for you ”

                                             -Victoria Eyog

Your brain wasn't meant to calculate how God would do it for you but to accept that God will do it for you

We can’t figure out by which means He’ll answer our prayers, and good news is, He doesn’t expect us to figure out How He’ll answer our prayers. He’s just expecting us to provide the faith, and He’ll provide the miracle.

I hope this sets you free from lots of anxiety.

Prayer

Father Lord God Almighty, thank You so much for making me realize today that You don’t need me to calculate How You‘ll answer my prayers, but that my role is just to believe that You‘ll answer my prayers. This lifts a load off my shoulder as I put my trust in You to take care of me, my needs, the desires of my heart, my loved ones, my projects, in Jesus Christ’s Name. Amen 

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Victoria Eyog 

Why am I Stuck Here?

Hello everyone, I hope you’re all fine by God’s grace. Today’s post is directed to anyone who feels stuck where they are now.

I find it kind of complicated when I really long for something but that I can’t have it yet. It keeps me up at night, it makes me anxious, it makes me tired. I don’t know how it is for you, but when I want to be somewhere but that I am somewhere else, I just feel stuck and full of regrets and probably even envious (may God forgive me) of those who are where I would like to be NOW. 

When I look at Jeremiah 29, I can only suppose that the people of God who were exiled from Jerusalem to Babylon felt this way too. Their brothers, sisters, friends etc were left in Jerusalem, while they had been exiled. They wouldn’t be in their home town any longer but others would. They were stuck in another country, having another culture, probably having to eat different meals compared to what they were used to. They were stuck in a reality which wasn’t the reality they were used to and which wasn’t the reality they expected nor the one they wanted to live in.

Sounds familiar? Have you ever felt this way too?

Nevertheless, God in His love and mercy made Jeremiah His prophet write a letter and send it to the exiled, in order to encourage them while they were stuck in Babylon.

Jeremiah 29:1‭, ‬4‭-‬6 NIV

This is the text of the letter that the prophet Jeremiah sent from Jerusalem to the surviving elders among the exiles and to the priests, the prophets and all the other people Nebuchadnezzar had carried into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon. This is what the Lord Almighty, the God of Israel, says to all those I carried into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon:

 “Build houses and settle down; plant gardens and eat what they produce. Marry and have sons and daughters; find wives for your sons and give your daughters in marriage, so that they too may have sons and daughters. Increase in number there; do not decrease.

As you can see, God asks them to build, settle, plant, eat, marry, increase, multiply, bear fruits where they are stuck not where they would like to be, not when they’ll be where they would like to be, but where they are NOW.

So the question now whatever you’re stuck in isn’t “why am I stuck here?” but “Now that I am stuck here what am I going to do? How am I going to obey God and make this period during which I am stuck fruitful to the glory of His Name and useful to me?”

I guess today what you’re stuck in isn’t called Babylon. Maybe you’re stuck in a cycle of self-condemnation, maybe you’re stuck in an unforgiving marriage, maybe Babylon for you is your new job, your new neighborhood, your new church, your status as single etc. 

It’s time that you quit asking “Why am I stuck here?”, and that you start doing what you’ve been called to do by God wherever you are, ie. Live life in abundance in Christ Jesus and give glory to God. 

  •  If you are stuck in yourself, then start loving yourself and edifying yourself with God’s Word.
  • If you’re stuck in an unforgiving marriage, then take the first step to forgive as Christ forgave you.
  • If you’re stuck in this new position at your job, then work as you should, give in your best and enjoy the fruits of your work.
  • If you’re stuck in your status as single, then use this time to serve God with all your heart and in preparing a pattern for you to keep serving Him even when you’re married, having to take care of your spouse and your kids.
  • If you’re stuck in the fiançailles state and aren’t yet getting married, instead of murmuring, complaining, crying for feeling stuck, serve God right where you are in this relationship.

Jeremiah 29:7 NIV

Also, seek the peace and prosperity of the city to which I have carried you into exile. Pray to the Lord for it, because if it prospers, you too will prosper.”

    Also, be praying for God to bring peace and prosperity right where you are stuck now, because if there’s peace where you’re stuck then you’ll be at peace , if there’s prosperity where you’re stuck, you too are going to prosper. 

    So, don’t consider where you’re stuck separately from what God can do for you. Where you are, He is. He never leaves you nor forsakes you, thus, while you’re stuck here you’d better enjoy His presence and His blessings.

    “ In fact it doesn’t matter where you are stuck, what really matters is Who you’re stuck with, and you’re stuck with God.” 

                                              – Victoria Eyog

    And, if you’re stuck with God, then you’re bound to prosper wherever you are, for He is with you in the middle.

    Also, one of these exiled took seriously the understanding of the fact that God was with him wherever he was, even in Babylon and that God wanted himprosper wherever he was, and he did awesome things out of love for God. His name was Daniel, and you can read more about him in the book of Daniel, just to be encouraged.

    Finally, I want to challenge you today to make a list of everything you can do to be productive in The Lord exactly where you’re stuck, and to thank Him for His presence and His guidance as you start working on these things.

    Prayer 

    Father Lord God Almighty, I thank You so much for making me realize today that it doesn’t matter where I am stuck because where I am, You are with me. Bless the place I am stuck in, and help me take effective measures to be productive where you’ve planted me, in Jesus Christs Name. Amen.

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    Victoria Eyog 

    You Are Ashamed Because of Something Which Was Done to You

    Hi everyone, I hope you’re all fine by God’s grace. Today’s post is directed to anyone who feels sad and ashamed because of something which was done to him/her.

    In case you are ashamed because of something which was done to you, because people lied to you and cheated on you, because people whom you trusted disappointed you, backstabbed you, and breached your trust, I believe you should decide to be comfortable with these 3 things.

    1. Forgive yourself

    You don’t have to condemn yourself for it. You don’t have to blame yourself for what was done to you, you shouldn’t internalize it.

    The person who should be ashamed is not you, it’s them.

    Take a look at this

    Jeremiah 9:3‭-‬6‭, ‬8 NIV

    “They make ready their tongue like a bow, to shoot lies; it is not by truth that they triumph in the land. They go from one sin to another; they do not acknowledge me,” declares the Lord . “Beware of your friends; do not trust anyone in your clan. For every one of them is a deceiver, and every friend a slanderer. Friend deceives friend, and no one speaks the truth. They have taught their tongues to lie; they weary themselves with sinning. You live in the midst of deception; in their deceit they refuse to acknowledge me,” declares the Lord . Their tongue is a deadly arrow; it speaks deceitfully. With their mouths they all speak cordially to their neighbors, but in their hearts they set traps for them.

    What they did was wrong, it’s not you who committed that sin, it’s them, so please stop blaming yourself for it and hating yourself.

    Maybe you feel like you should have been more careful, more selective etc, maybe indeed you could have avoided it or maybe not, but it doesn’t change the fact that you aren’t the one who did it to yourself, it’s them, so they should be ashamed not you.

    Forgive yourself for what happened.

    2. God doesn’t approve of what they did

    Jeremiah 9:9a NIV

    “Should I not punish them for this?” declares the Lord .

    Just by looking at this verse, you can clearly see that God doesn’t approve of what they did.

    God hates what they did to you, the fact that they cheated on you, used you, lied to you and tried to destroy you.

    Proverbs 6:16‭-‬19 NIV

    There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.

    If God hates what they did to you, If He is totally against what they did, then why do you believe that God holds you responsible for what happened? Why would He be disappointed by you because of something which was done to you, something He hates, something which you didn’t do but they did?

    God isn’t mad at you for what was done to you.

    It wasn’t your fault it was theirs. You didn’t take control of their bodies to force them to do anything to you, they chose to do it, they are responsible for it, they are the ones who committed that sin, not you.

    Not only is God not mad at you because of what was done to you, but to Him it doesn’t change anything about you or your worth to Him, so, don’t worry God doesn’t love you any less and it doesn’t make you His kid any less.

    3. Forgive them

    I guess this is the most difficult part because we’ve already agreed on the fact that they were wrong, not you, and that you aren’t responsible for their sin. We’ve also highlighted the fact that God is against what they did. So, you may ask:

    “Why should I forgive them if they hurt me and If they were wrong and if God knows that they were wrong?”

    In fact , you may even be contemplating revenge, planning on how to hurt them if ever you have such an opportunity, or just hating them hard enough to feel like your revenge on them is performed by hating them.

    Nevertheless, I’ll show you why you have to forgive them and let go of the idea of revenging.

    Jeremiah 9:9b NIV

    “Should I not avenge myself on such a nation as this?”

    Romans 12:19 NIV

    Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

    In other words, God is going to handle the case all by Himself. Don’t try to help Him to avenge you, He is The Judge of The Universe, He knows how to deal with it. He hates sin even more than you do, so, don’t try to handle it by yourself, let Him avenge you Himself.

    Finally, it may be hard to admit it right now, but you too haven’t been perfect with God. You’ve lied, disobeyed, etc just to say that you too have sinned against God and you aren’t perfect. If God were to hold it against you forever, then you wouldn’t even exist again, but out of grace and love He forgave you through the Sacrifice of His Only Son The Lord Jesus Christ on the Cross of Calvary. This means that you should be able to give back in His Name and for His sake the same grace and forgiveness He offered you freely.

    You can’t experience God’s grace and remain the same.

    No matter how hard it is, ask God to grant You His forgiving heart so that you may forgive them just as He forgave you.

    I’ll just suggest that you watch this sermon, titled “No more nails” from the Seven Mile Miracles series of Pastor Steven Furtick, lead pastor of Elevation Church. This sermon should help you to forgive as God forgave you.

    Prayer

    Father Lord God Almighty, I have realized today that I am still hurt and broken because of what was done to me. Lord, help me today as I choose to forgive myself once and for all for what happened. Thank You for handling my case and for avenging me. I choose today to take a step of faith and to forgive all those who hurt me, and I pray that You may touch their hearts so that they may have a sincere and deep relationship with Jesus, in Jesus Christ’s Name I pray, Amen.

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